This article was reprinted from the Public Health Agency of Canada website
What Is Child Sexual Abuse?
Child sexual abuse occurs when a child is used for sexual purposes by an adult or adolescent. It involves exposing a child to any sexual activity or behaviour. Sexual abuse most often involves fondling and may include inviting a child to touch or be touched sexually. Other forms of sexual abuse include sexual intercourse, juvenile prostitution and sexual exploitation through child pornography. Sexual abuse is inherently emotionally abusive and is often accompanied by other forms of mistreatment. It is a betrayal of trust and an abuse of power over the child.
Child sexual abuse is a criminal offence in Canada. The Criminal Code clearly identifies those behaviours that are against the law. The Canada Evidence Act defines the forms of evidence that may be admitted in court. In recent years, both the
Criminal Code and the Canada Evidence Act have been changed to provide better protection to children.
How Widespread Is the Problem?
Child sexual abuse is largely a hidden crime, so it is difficult to estimate the number of people who are sexually abused at some time during their childhood (the prevalence of child sexual abuse). Both adults and children may be reluctant to report sexual abuse for many reasons. Their reluctance may be related to the historical norm of keeping such behaviour secret because of the sense of shame associated with it. If the abuser is someone close to them in terms of kinship or other bonds, they may be deterred by the likelihood that criminal charges and penalties may be imposed. Finally, the fact that the victims are young and dependent tends to be a major obstacle to disclosure.
Research consistently reveals that, for reasons such as these, most child victims do not disclose their abuse. Even when they do, additional barriers may be encountered. For many of the same reasons that children do not report the abuse, their families may, in turn, not seek help. If the family does want help, they may still encounter difficulties finding the appropriate services.
There are few national statistics on child sexual abuse in Canada. A 1994 report, Child Welfare in Canada: The Role of Provincial and Territorial Authorities in Cases of Child Abuse, describes the provincial laws, definitions and child welfare systems that deal with child sexual abuse. A 1996 report, Child and Family Services Annual Report 1992-93 to 1994-95, presents statistical data on child welfare services in Canada. The available data cannot be directly or easily compared among the provinces because the information is collected according to different definitions and parameters in each province. For example, in some provinces, data on suspected cases are combined with those on confirmed cases. In other jurisdictions, sexual abuse is not distinguished from physical abuse.
Nonetheless, the following information provides some insight into the incidence of child sexual abuse.
• It is estimated that there were nearly 12 000 investigations of child sexual abuse in Ontario in 1993. Sexual abuse was substantiated in 29 percent of these cases and suspected in another 27 percent.
• In British Columbia, more than 500 complaints of sexual abuse were received in March 1992.
• The most extensive study of child sexual abuse in Canada was conducted by the Committee on Sexual Offences Against Children and Youths. Its report indicates that, among adult Canadians, 53 percent of women and 31 percent of men were sexually abused when they were children.
Facts to Consider
The Victim
• Victims of child sexual abuse are found in all classes and ethnocultural communities. Children who have physical or mental disabilities are especially vulnerable to sexual abuse.
• Children are not able to give informed consent to sexual activity because they cannot fully understand adult-child sexual contact or predict the consequences, and because the adult is abusing a position of authority over the child.
• Children who are isolated from others are at greater risk of being sexually abused. These children have little contact with friends, brothers and sisters or adults whom they can trust. Some abusers are able to take advantage of a child who is already isolated. Other abusers manage to isolate the child by manipulating people and situations. As a result of sexual abuse, some children may further isolate themselves because they feel different or afraid of what others will think.
• There is a greater possibility of serious distress to the child if the abuser is a family member, or if the child does not receive support from his or her non-abusive parent. The long-term consequences are also worse if force or the threat of force was used in the commission of the abuse, or if there were many incidents of abuse over a long period.
• As mentioned above, children find it difficult to break the silence. In a child’s world, adults control most of the resources and seem to know all the answers. If the abuser threatens the child or someone the child loves, the child may not question the adult’s power to carry out the threat.
• Children always want to tell about their abuse so that it can be stopped, but they are often afraid that they will not be believed or protected, or they are afraid of what might happen if they do tell. It is normal for children to delay telling about their abuse for a year or more after it occurs. They may talk about the abuse more readily if another victim discloses abuse by the same offender or if they are asked direct questions about the possibility of abuse.
• Especially in cases of incest, when the abuser is a close family member, children may not reveal their sexual victimization until they become adults. Many never tell even then. The abusers enforce secrecy and create in the child a fear of destroying the privacy and otherwise intact sense of security provided by the family.
• There is little evidence that many children deliberately make false allegations or misinterpret appropriate adult-child contact as sexual abuse. In the few recorded cases in which children appear to have made false allegations, it has usually been the result of manipulation by an adult.
• False denials of sexual abuse (saying it did not happen when it did) and recanting a disclosure of abuse (denying that it happened after having told someone about being abused) are much more common than false reports.
• Children sometimes recant truthful allegations of abuse. This is not surprising because the child naturally fears the impact that a disclosure will have on the family, or fears that he or she will not be believed. As well, the child may recant in fearful recognition of the fact that the offending adult has so much more power.
• When child victims receive professional support prior to giving testimony in court, their statements are more likely to be clear and accurately reflect the time and details of the event. The experience is also less stressful for the child who has received such support.
• Children vary in their responses to sexual abuse. The manner in which the adults react to the child’s disclosure is an important factor in influencing how the child comes to view the abuse and his or her own role in it. Being believed and having family support can help the child to cope and adjust and can decrease some of the traumatic effects of sexual abuse.
• Adult women sexually molested as children are more likely than non-victims to suffer from both physical and psychological problems. Abusive and manipulative men may target these women as victims in adult relationships because of their vulnerability. Sexual abuse victims who were also physically or emotionally abused as children are the most likely to suffer from health problems and further abuse as adults.
• Men who were sexually abused as children may also suffer from depression, anxiety and suicidal thoughts and behaviour, especially if they were abused more than once. Those who experienced both emotional abuse and multiple acts of sexual abuse are the most likely to have poor mental health and to report sexual interest in, or sexual contact with, children.
The Abuser
• Most offenders are not strangers to their victims. In most cases, they are well known to their victims. Approximately 25 percent of offenders are adolescents.
• Most of the reported abusers are male.
• It is the offender who initiates the sexual activity. The offender is responsible for the abuse no matter what the child does.
• A recent Canadian study revealed that more than 40 percent of convicted child molesters were sexually abused as children. They tended to choose victims close to the age at which they were first victimized.
• Offenders use a number of tactics to gain access to children and to ensure their victim’s silence. These tactics include the use of threats, physical force, bribery, and other forms of physical and psychological coercion.
• Some offenders have abused more than 70 children before any of the victims disclosed the abuse. In cases in which one offender has abused a large number of victims, the abused children are more likely to be male.
• Incest offenders reflect the same range of education, religion, occupation, intelligence and mental health status as can be found in a representative cross-section of the general population. Abusers are found among all ages, ethnocultural communities and social classes.
• Most sexual abuse takes place in the context of an ongoing relationship between the abuser and the child. This long-term relationship gives the offender opportunity to exploit the child’s desires and fears. An incestuous father, for example, may give his child special privileges or gifts to obtain his or her cooperation and silence.
Reporting Child Sexual Abuse
If you believe you have reasonable grounds to suspect that a child is being sexually exploited or abused, promptly report your concerns to the child welfare agency, provincial or territorial social services department or police force in your community. In all cases, the person reporting is protected from any kind of legal action, provided the report is not falsely made and motivated by malice.
Where to Go for Support Services
Contact your local
– child welfare agency,
– police department,
– social service agency,
– hospital,
– mental health centre,
– sexual assault centre,
– transition home,
– distress centre, or
– other community service organization that provides counselling to children and families.
Many of these organizations are listed among the emergency telephone numbers on or near the first page of your local telephone directory.
Children who want help can also call the Kids’ Help phone at 1-800-668-6868.
What Can Be Done to Prevent Child Sexual Abuse?
• Lawyers, judges, psychologists, doctors, social workers, police and other professionals who provide assistance to victims of child sexual abuse should receive specialized training.
• Children can best be protected by giving them the knowledge and skills necessary for their safety and well-being, and by creating in our families and communities an atmosphere in which they feel safe enough to come forward if they are being mistreated or abused.
• Children who are well informed about inappropriate touching, who are taught to trust their feelings about situations and people, and who know where to get help if they require it are less likely to be victims of any type of assault.
• Prevention education is particularly important for children who have been sexually abused, as they are at higher risk of revictimization than children who have not been sexually assaulted.
Suggested Reading
Carla van Dam. A Safety and First Aid Manual for the Prevention and Treatment of Child Sexual Abuse. Port Coquitlam, B.C.: M.D. Angus, 1987.
National Clearinghouse on Family Violence, Overview Papers on Child Abuse and Neglect, Wife Abuse, Dating Violence, Abuse of Seniors, etc. Ottawa: Health Canada.
Cheryl Ritlbauer, Street Proofing: Safety Training for Families. Winnipeg: Winnipeg South Child and Family Services Agency, 1987.
Sexual Abuse of Children, The Future of Children, Centre for the Future of Children, The David and Lucile Packard Foundation, 300 Second St., Suite 102, Los Altos, California, 94022., Vol. 4(2), 1994, 248 p.
Miriam Ticoll, No More Victims: A Manual to Guide Families and Friends in Preventing the Sexual Abuse of People with a Mental Handicap, North York, Ontario: Roeher Institute, 1992.
Audiovisual:
The Family Violence Prevention Unit, through the National Clearinghouse on Family Violence of Health Canada, has compiled a collection of more than 90 films and videos on family violence prevention, including child abuse prevention. These can be borrowed from the partner libraries of the National Film Board of Canada.
National Clearinghouse on Family Violence
Address Locator: 1909D1
Family Violence Prevention Unit
Public Health Agency of Canada
Health Canada
Ottawa, Ontario K1A 1B4
Telephone: (613) 957-2938 or call this toll-free number: 1-800-267-1291
Fax: (613) 941-8930
FaxLink: (613) 941-7285 or toll-free: 1-888-267-1233
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This first person tale comes from Latanya Williams, 17, called
Sexual Abuse: A Survivor’s Story
Originally Published: Nov 1, 2000
Revised: Jul 13, 2007
Being raped is one of the most traumatic experiences anyone ever endures. It’s something you deal with for the rest of your life. It leaves a dark mark that never lightens.But you must find a way to move on.
I was raped by my stepfather–the man I considered to be my father. I was 13. I was young and very innocent. I did not know how to do anything except trust the ones I loved.
And then my step-father shattered my life. He raped me. I felt nasty, hurt, angry, betrayed and, most of all, I felt like less of a person.
Except for my mother, my family was not there to support me. That made it even harder to deal with. Without God, my mother and two very good friends (Cynthia Liccardo, who prosecuted the case, and Tracy Cianfrocca, the investigator), I don’t think I could have made it as far as I have.
When I used to cry, my mom was there, and when I needed to talk, my friends were there.
Afraid To Tell
It took years for me to move on. In the beginning, I was always watching my back. I couldn’t sleep. Individual counseling made me feel worse. But I started to counsel myself. I made myself believe that it wasn’t my fault. I went to school and I went to group sessions at Anchor House, a home in Trenton for runaway teenagers.
After the rape, I told my mother right away, even though my step-father warned me not to. I was afraid to tell because my step-father said that it would destroy their marriage. He gave me money. He paid me not to tell.
But I told anyway. My mother took me to the hospital and called the police. My step-father was arrested, but he got out on bail. The judge issued a restraining order, which meant that my step-father couldn’t come anywhere near me. But one day, he followed me to school, and so they put him in jail until the trial.
Taking The Stand
When I turned 17, I finally started getting my life back in order. But then the case went to trial and in some ways it was like reliving the whole thing. Next to the rape, it as the most embarrassing and stressful thing I’ve ever endured. It was embarrassing because I had to sit on a stand and tell 13 people–strangers, really–everything that had happened that night. All the details of the rape. It was horrible.
Things got worse before they got better. My step-father’s lawyer tried to say that this really didn’t happen. But I knew it did. He tried to confuse me and bring up things from my past that had nothing to do with the case.
The part that really makes you sick is looking at the person who invaded your body. It makes you scared and nervous. I can still remember the feeling that went through me when I saw him in court. I had a flashback and I felt like he could do it again.
But I got through the trial with Cynthia’s (the prosecutor) help. She talked about everything that would happen. We went to the courthouse the day before the trial. She showed me where everyone would be sitting and she let me sit on the stand so I could see how it would feel. She talked me through the whole thing.
A Guilty Verdict
The jury found my step-father guilty. He is serving 10 years in prison. I was glad he went to jail, but I also feel like it isn’t enough. I still feel like I have to watch my back. But thanks to a few special people who didn’t let me shut myself out from the rest of the world, I have been able to take control of my life.
I graduated from Trenton High first in my class. I was able to choose any college I wanted and now I’m in my second year at a private, all-girls college.
It’s true that you never get over sexual abuse and rape. But you can learn how to deal with it.
If you have been raped, don’t shut out the rest of the world. Talk to someone you trust. Get help. Remember that no matter what, you are somebody and you can achieve anything you want.
I’m living proof that anything is possible.
If you are being or have been sexually abused, get help! Call the toll free National Child Abuse Hotline (24 hours a day/7 days a week): 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) or RAINN’s hotline: 1-800-656-HOPE (1-800-656-4673). Trained professionals will tell you how to get help close to home.
